Legal Question in Family Law in India

HI

I am Kamlesh Chauhan born on 09th June 1983 staying at Ahmedabad would like to share my life with you. I am staying at Ahmedabad with my Mother (54 Years) and younger sister (18 Years) My Father is not staying with us, He is staying with my Brother.

I haven�t completed my Graduation, due to some family problems; I am the only earning person for my family. My mother is worried for me as I have to work more to give happiness to my family. I act as an LIC�s agent and doing the part time photography also. My Mother decided for my marriage as I was 24 years old.

I heard Marriages are made in Heaven. Marriage is a soft relation between Husband and Wife based on Trust and Feelings for each other. If that trust or feeling is broken that relation becomes an Agreement only. It�s a Compromise to pass the life meaningless.

I got married on 26th April 2007 with Leena Dayaram Vachetta staying at Shahpur Ahmedabad. She is the only daughter in her family staying with two brothers and her parents. After 02 months of marriage she told me to stay separate from my parents, I denied and explain her that this is not possible as my mother & sister are dependent on me. I love my family and her as well. Her language is very rude while she speak to me and with my mother. I don�t understand what she is thinking of. I discussed with her several times for the solutions. But she doesn�t find me the right person for her solution, as she doesn�t care for me and my family. I explained her escalation matrix as if she has any problem with us she can discuss internally and can resolve it at home only. I have my uncle (Mama), my all relatives, they are enough capable and eligible to solve all kind of problems as they have seen the world better than us. But she always involves her parents in our family discussion. In spite of explaining her daughter, while she misbehave and rude vulgar language they always blame me and proven me that they are her parents only. Even they don�t care me they had just told on my face that you don�t come at our place but my daughter will come any time she likes, and no-one can stop her this is the way they encourage their daughter that what she did is right, We are with you go-ahead.

On 18th Day of July 2007 I called leena�s Mummy and daddy for the family discussion about her misbehavior in the evening after 20:00 hrs so that I and Leena both can fininsh our duty and reach home from our Job. She was working with Reliance Communication Shahibaug and myself working in Tata Teleservices at Navrangpura. But that day neither she nor her parents came on my expected time, they came early at 18:00 hrs, in my absence and quarreled with my mother and sister that we want all the ornaments and clothes back she don�t want to stay here any more. My mother insisted them to wait till I come from office and she informed me about the same, I immediately came from the office at 18:40 hrs, I saw that her parents and Leena (wife) are standing outside, shouting loudly and gathering people around. I called all of them inside the room and offered for a glass of water to my father in law from my house to calm down. But he didn�t bother to take that glass and put down he just neglected me. I want to discuss with them that why this things is happening what is the solution. The more I am trying to resolve more I am getting confused just by her mis-understanding and her childness. I thought that she will understand her parent�s words. But Her Parents don�t want the same as I desired. Inspite of saying anything to her they told us to give all her belongings and ornaments, which they had given us in marriage, I denied them to give all ornaments and her belongings as they had given me all that in presence of several people, I told that I will give all this back in front of some people so that no one can blame each other. I never asked or demanded with them that I want this or that. They are such a greedy person they can�t wait for the next day and gathering of our relatives, They shout again as I refused to give back they came out and started using vulgar languages and abusive language for us, I didn�t respond on her parents words but when leena shouted on my mother and sister using the abusive language. I slapped her in front of our neighbors , but in that also my mother came in between. What an amazing drama she did now her position is standing while I slapped her and my mother in between she sat down slowly and fell down showing that she is unconscious. They all reacted as if I hit her like a hell. Her father called the police for that and asked them I hurt her so she is now unconscious, she got up when police came, and we all gone there, She had taken all her belongings and Ornaments given to me also at police station I had given in front of police on an written Concent and she left my house with her parents.

After 7 months she called me on my cell and she apologize me for what had happened and asked me to take her home again, I told her I will accept you if you accept your mistake in front of our relatives and also admit that the same will not happen in future she and her parents did the same and I accepted her as my wife and after few days we gone to Div (Gujarat) for the trip of 3 days so that she will feel comfortable with me and my family, But her attitude & her language never changed. By this period she became pregnant and within 3 months she left my home again and never came back she gave born to the baby(girl) and never informed or called us. After her born she claimed the 125 petition against me for the maintenance in year 2008. Now she wants to stay separate with me and not ready to stay with my mother and sister and I cannot agree on this as my family depends on me. I want separation from her now I tried to convince her but I don�t belive that she can understand me or my feelings. Pl. Guide me what to do??


Asked on 4/02/10, 8:39 am

3 Answers from Attorneys

Sudershan Goel India Law Offices of Sudershan Goel - Advocate

She may be entitled for a separate living with her husband. Try reaching an amicable out of court settlement. You may need to change your outlook towards family life in the interest of your own happy married life with your wife and child.

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Answered on 4/02/10, 10:34 pm
RAJIV GUPTA (Cell: +91 9811284735) [email protected]

better shun your ego and live happy otherwise the life of your child would suffer the most after you and your wife.

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Answered on 4/03/10, 2:55 am
Pravin Vaidya Independent

Have heart to heart talk with her with or without presence of relatives & well wishers where you can politely but firmly put up your legitimate/genuine views & expectations, and if it does not work out then better take a decision to go for divorce as such unstable & un-cooperative life partner cannot be happy or cannot give happyness to other

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Answered on 4/07/10, 7:43 am


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