I have a domestic violence injunction against my wife (she is respondent). I am pursuing divorce. She had agreed through a third party to a simple divorce, never returned signed papers to me(through same third party) so I filed uncontested and put an ad in the paper. She responded to ad and contested stating financial and property issues. Court scheduled mediation set in 2 months. I do not know what she wants. Am I wrong to contact her directly (with restraining order in effect) to find out what she wants?