My ex-husband has served me papers to lower or eliminate monthly, lifetime alimony. The marriage was over 25 years, he is an M.D. and married to his para-mour. I am a 60 year old mental health counselor and depend on this small check for basic needs. I have 20 days to get a lawyer and respond. Is it reasonable to ask for this area of legal help on a sliding scale? How about ex paying legal fees?