Legal Question in Family Law in Illinois

Ok here goes...me and my ex have a court order stating the parties shall split equally all uncovered medical, dental, optical, orthodontia, psychological and counseling, deductible and co-payment expenses of their child not covered by insurance. She is wanting to take our 3 year old son to psychological counsiling, I refused to allow this to happen based on his age. She is doing it on the grounds of his behavior and emotions. He acts like every 3 year old I know and speaks very well and plays well with others and is very active. I spoke to the day care which has him most of the time and they have not seen any behavior or emotion problems other than the normal going from one family to another every other weekend but that will always be like that. They did comment on how well he has adapted in a short amount of time. She is going to do whatever she wants regardless what I say. I recommended if anything to take him to a place in our town that takes the insurance he is on but she would much rather take him to a place that charges $120 per hour. And wants me to pay half of that including the most recent visit where she went to meet with the counsler and my son was actually in my custody at the time. I petition against this yesterday and have a court appearance in July. Should I pay the 1/2 until court for the fear of being in contempt of court or should I request she brings receipts to the court house? May I mention that I asked her upon whose recomendations and she told me she didn't need one and then later tells me her attorney suggested this person. I for one do not feel its right to subject our son to cousiling at this early of an age when ideally there is nothing wrong with him.

She is constantly on a power trip. One thing that upsets me and if I should even bring it up is that on one of my weekendend visits she asked if she could take our son to church with her because they were being recoginized as a new family at the church she worded it. At no point did she tell me our son was being baptized. I was being nice and let her take him for a few hours and she brought him back and never said one word to me about it. She is suppose to notify about doctor appointments and she doesn't.

I also put in the petition that 2 weeks ago our son bumped his head at day care on a friday before I picked him up and she had a copy of the incident accident report never told me about it. My son and neice told me that he hurt his head at day care. I had him that weekend and returned him on sunday. That monday she called the police dept and filed a child abuse report against me for this bump. After investigation it was found to be false and the case was closed.

All of this nonsense recently began when she found out I have a girlfriend and felt that she needed to know this information immediately. She has been married for over 2 years. We have been broken up for almost 3 years. I had no idea she had gotten married til someone told me. I just want to be able to move on with my life Im wanting to purchase a house I finally got my credit back above 700 after she wrecked it. Im afraid of what kinda debt she will put me in next from going to attorney after attorney. Can I please have some advice on this matter..


Asked on 5/30/14, 4:55 pm

1 Answer from Attorneys

Sue Roberts-Kurpis, Esq. Law Office of Sue Roberts-Kurpis

You need to contact the lawyer who handled your divorce. This dispute is obviously heading back into court and it needs to be there. It seems that she is trying to sandbag you and is completely disregarding your rights under your joint parenting agreement.

If you don't want to use the attorney who handled your divorce, please contact someone before this gets anymore out of hand.

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Answered on 5/30/14, 6:48 pm


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