I've been divorced seven years joint custody of my son the whole time. My ex constantly tries to get back together. I have consistently said no. Clearly he has no legit concerns about my parenting or he would not want to be back together. He is now filing for sole custody and when i texted him to find out how we could avoid this, he sent a message saying he has given me numerous chances to "not let it come to this" by raising our son together and "seems now it's hard for you to help yourself" I'm not sure if I would "win" a custody battle but can i show the messages to the judge? It kind of seems like a bribe to me.
1 Answer from Attorneys
If there are no legitimate concerns concerning your parenting of your son, then it is doubtful a judge would award sole custody based on your divorce agreement. If he does file a motion to change custody, the messages would be relevant to show that he would be okay living with you and your son, but your son should not live with you if you do what your ex says as far as getting back together. If he files to change custody, you should consult an attorney.