Mediator filed our paperwork (no court date yet) in which the agreement had me buying husband a car up to 70K in lieu of alimony but due to updside down mortgage I can not get him the $$. Can the mediator file and addendum to what the house is worth vs owed. Agreement had Home Valued 345K & Owed 233K. Based on the bank through the Hm Eq process I was advised that the house is valued $165K=denied equity loan. husband forcing me to take the pre59 1/2 from my 401K which I don't want to because of the penalties involved. Will the mediator be able to adjust the agreement? We live in Mass and married 6 years and agreement has 50-50 in selling/equity in the house. Selling=homeless for me. Married 6 years and husband has not worked nor has he collected unemployment and has not contributed financial to the marriage. Deed in both names (did quickclaim to add his name in 2007) but (2) mortgages are in my name only.