Legal Question in Family Law in North Carolina

Your ex is screwing up badly and appears to be thinking with his little head instead of his big one regarding this issue due to a meddling girlfriend. If he continues to listen to his idiot girlfriend and continues this behavior, it will most likely look quite bad for him in Court. As you describe it, you are being denied visitation for no good reason other than new girlfriend doesn't like you and this is harmful to the children. Your first step would be to try and reason with him and let him know that while he 'can' do what he is doing he shouldn't and he is just making himself look bad if it goes to Court. If this does not solve the problem - get a lawyer and haul him into Court to force him to do right.