Legal Question in Criminal Law in Washington

I am 18 years old live in nanny dating a 21 year old. I am not suppose to have my boyfriend over during the days while I am working but I have a lot in the past. He has also spent the night quite a few times.

But a few months ago my boyfriend hit me, I let it go.Now that I am trying to stop seeing my boyfriend and letting him come over he threatens to tell the people I work for that I am doing things wrong in attempt to get me fired. Or he threatens to hit me. A few days ago I tried calling the police on him because he wouldn't leave my house during the day when I told him to. So he took my phone and wouldn't give it back then hit me every time I tried to get my phone. Along with choking me and slamming me up against walls. There is also a hole he has kicked in my wall and the windshield on my car has cracks in it from him punching it.

Please help. I know he's doing things that are against the law. I just don't know exactly what.


Asked on 6/23/10, 2:17 pm

2 Answers from Attorneys

Paul Ferris Law Office of Paul T. Ferris

I will assume you are not a U.S. citizen and/or were not raised in this country. (Your question is the kind that would be asked by the perpetrator who is trying to determine the charges he is facing).

You have not mentioned making subsequent attempts to contact the police by a method other than using the phone "he took".

Based on the information you provided, a person who committed such acts could be charged with one or more counts of residential burglary, trespass, assault, interference with reporting of a domestic violence incident, theft, malicious mischief (property damage).

If you're the nanny, contact the police. Protect yourself, but more importantly, protect the children you care for (by resigning and moving).

If you're the perpetrator, get a lawyer.

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Answered on 6/23/10, 5:31 pm
Edward Hoffman Law Offices of Edward A. Hoffman

I agree with Mr. Ferris. You seem to think the police have to catch this man in the act, but that's not true. Since you couldn't report his actions when he was with you, report them when he isn't instead. The police might arrest him based upon what he has already done, or they might help you get a restraining order requiring him to stay away from you. If he violates that order, the police will have a new reason to arrest him.

I understand that you are afraid of consequences from your employers if they find out what you've been doing. But you should be more afraid of the consequences you will have to deal with if you let this man continue abusing you. He seems likely to become more of a threat over time, especially if he believes he can get away with doing whatever he wants to you.

Good luck.

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Answered on 6/23/10, 5:41 pm


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