I have been divorced since 2010. I have a daughter, 12 years old, whom I share legal custody with her mother. My ex has full physical custody and I have visitation. My daughter is currently out on summer break and today I asked her if she'd be interested in possibly coming tomorrow to my house early for the whole day instead of picking her up at 3:30pm. I told her she would have to ask her mom and that I would also request her mother's approval.
I get a call from my ex saying I'm not allowed to discuss anything like that with my daughter. She said from now on, never to discuss making plans with my daughter, that I must tellll her and she will discuss it with my daughter and let me know. She threatened legal action if I continue to talk to my daughter abour such things.
Is it true I can't even talk to my daughter about doing things together. How do I know my ex will even tell her about it? Please help
1 Answer from Attorneys
Discussing changes in the visitation schedule with the child puts mother in a difficult place. She may feel pressured to agree so as not to disappoint your daughter. You can discuss plans for activities during your time with your daughter.