Legal Question in Criminal Law in India

Hi Experts,

I am a techie , hailing from a background of teacher parents, and a good academic career. I got married in late 2010, my wife is also working in a IT MNC and earning a very decent salary.

My married life has been like a over stretched nightmare right from the very first month. She is extremely short tempered, foul mouthed and incredibly rigid. The only grievance she has is the fact that she feels I donot spend enough time with her. With that, in order to humiliate me in front of my family, she always brings up the case of 2 girls I had romantic involvement with , long before marriage.

* I have never ever cheated on my wife after marriage. She can never prove otherwise. Infact, I never had physical relationship before my marriage at all.

* Me or my family have not demanded any dowry, or any kind of cash during marriage. However, she had brought some gold jewellery for her, and for me during marriage as tradition - again , we never demanded it.

* I have never physically assaulted her, or forced her for anything. I have not demanded money from her salary to manage home.

* I do most of the cooking at home, drop her at office; spent close to 1lac in first year of marriage on 2 trips to make her happy.

* We never had any problems in our sex life, so long as differences were managable, then it ceased to exist altogether.(for the past 2 months)

On the other hand she:

* Abuses me for any little things she finds annoying.

* She has called me a lot of things, told me "Fuck You" , "Eunuch"

* She has physically assaulted me at numerous occasions - bitting, hitting, scratching and kicking - and I have bled some times.

* She and her family members talk in extreme and pedestrian abusive language regarding me and my family behind my back.

* Acts crazy when she is angry, throws household items , pretends to cut her wrist . One time after a huge fight she sat on the bed, took a big magazine, tore the pages one by one to bits and threw them all around the bedroom and then went to sleep.

Things I have:

* Recording of the foul language that she and her family members were using in a conversation , I was not present.

In this clearly audible recording, they call my father a Old Lizard (in native language), my mother a Skinny Whore, my sister an A** F*** and a lot of other derogatory things. They also talk about a ploy of gaining my trust now by hook and crook and then "step on the heads of my father and mother"

* Photograph of the scratch marks I had from her assault.

* Recording where my wife and in laws testify that there has not been any dowry demand from me or my parents any time.

I am deeply hurt and angered. I do not want to continue this relation. There are a couple of things that are crossing my mind :

* Can I file a FIR on grounds of Verbal Abuse (IPC 504), with the recordings as evidence. Soon I will have a recording with me in the discussion, where I may expect some face to face abuse as well.

In one of the recordings, my wife talks about a plan to defame my sister by spreading rumors and distributing photocopies of wrong information. Can I use it to file an FIR ?

* Can I go public with this recording and show her real face to the masses ? Whats the legal implication with that ?

* Can these evidences be used to protect me from a 498A - if at all it happens anytime in the future ? Soon I will have a recording where my wife and her parents are going to admit that there is no kind of dowry demand or physical abuse from our side ?

I know , this post has been extremely long. But I hope you understand the kind of anguish me and my parents are going thru at this juncture that made me write all this. My parents are very old, I am their only son, and it breaks my heart to see them suffering like this.

Please help me.

thanks

Rakesh

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