Legal Question in Family Law in New York

child support & sole custody

Im wondering what my son's rights are with his bio. father.I dated D for a few months and then I got pregnant.I moved down state to be with A who I thought was the father.A & I had this baby 7/00 (A is the man on the birth cert)after 6 months D contacted me and said that he wanted a pat.test we got the test in 2/01 and it turns out that D is the father not A.I have spoken to D and his lawyer a few years ago and both wanted to see this child happy and be provided with (support).My son is now almost 6 and when I had tried to contact D he just dosent respond(email).What can I do to protect my child from having to have joint custody between a mother who cares for him 24/7 and a father who is careless.I can't really afford a lawyer.How do I file for sole custody and child support.He has also had the paternity results since 2001 so does that make him liable for back support?I had my son young but that has never stopped me from being a good mom and provider,but I am at the point where my son deserves financial support from his father(not to mention the cost of education and camp and the many other things that a 5 y/o needs)I am also remarried with another child,does that effect anything?Any responces will be a great help.Thank you


Asked on 3/10/06, 10:07 am

1 Answer from Attorneys

Phroska L. McAlister PHROSKA LEAKE McALISTER

Re: child support & sole custody

A child is entitled to child support from his natural father, to the child's majority. In NY, majority is age 21.

Child support is generally calculated from the "File Date" of the Petition for Child Support.

A natural father is entitled to Petition for Visitation AND Custody of his natural child, at any time. There is no longer a presumption that "mother's" right to custody is superior to father's right to custody of their child, even when the child is born out of wedlock.

If a parent is deceased or unable to care for a child, unless entirely unfit, the other or surviving parent has superior rights to Custody against ALL others, including stepfathers, grandparents, siblings, and etc..

A parent's Lack of prior interest or involvement, may not be used as grounds to avoid or prevent parental visitation.

Unless a father is a danger to the health and safety of his child, a father is entitled to the Court awarding Visitation, including overnights, holidays and vacations, when requested.

A child's right to have both natural parents is PERSONAL to the child.

Thus, A mother cannot "Will" "contract" or otherwise "give" a father's RIGHT, to "father" his child, to anyone.

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Notwithstanding the above, your concern about money, "for your child" is misplaced. IF you want to maintain the integrity of your houshold, you should consider asking your husband/father of your "afterborn" child/ren, to legally adopt your child, by another; ask for that child's father to Consent to the adoption; and then complete the adoption process.

Any other arrangement or demand for Child Support from a man, not your husband, will without doubt, doom your marriage, confuse your children and lead to endless years of acrimony and litgation.

Good luck,

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Answered on 3/10/06, 1:23 pm


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