Legal Question in Family Law in Oklahoma

Re: Obtaining guardianship of incompetent parent

You can seek guardianship over his estate (money) or his person or both in Oklahoma. In either event there are procedural hoops to jump through including putting together a plan as to how you will take care of his money and person (ie. nursing home, doctor appts., haircuts, etc.). These are not that difficult to do. However, those who are paying him his disability directly evidently did not determine that he needed someone to take care of his money at the time it was awarded to him. That can be changed also and it sounds as if it should. You may wish to contact the VA and Social Security about your concerns and they should investigate to see if he is still capable of taking care of his money. If they agree with you they can require the money be paid to someone who can dole it out to him as needed. What you might do is seek a temporary guradianship, place him in rehab, take him out to Arizona when he is released and his mind is clearer, and try to get him to make the change he obviously needs to make. Perhaps the caring you demonstrate in your letter will sink in to him and he will want to live to see his kids and grandkids.

Re: Obtaining guardianship of incompetent parent

My suggestion would be to go to Court and establish a guardianship. However, if the Court finds that he is not incompetent, then you will lose and Dad will be left to his own devices. Why don't you just invite Dad to move in with you and go from there. You will have much better luck if he agrees b/c he will not feel like you are trying to incarcerate him.