Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Your best course of action is to execute a durable power of attorney and an advance medical directive naming the person or persons you wish to act on your behalf, and specifically requesting in those documents that if a guardian or conservator is needed that your agent serve as such, and do that now. You may wish to have these documents held by a reliable, neutral party with directions NOT to deliver to your chosen agent until you request that it be done or if you are medically determined to be incapacitated. Even if the "disowned" child should attempt to go to court to be declared your guardian or conservator, your desires should take precedence, unless your agent is acting wrongfully. The cost of these documents is relatively low, and, under the circumstances, you should consider hiring an attorney to prepare them to accomplish what you're trying to accomplish.

Properly composed and executed advanced medical directives should

take care of any future medical issues which may be of concern to you.

As for legal concerns, a durable power of attorney given to a person in whom

you have absolute confidence before you become incompetent to execute

such a document should be sufficient to bar any attempts by this "34 year

old adult child" to petition the circuit court for a conservatorship

or guardianship over your person.

Furthermore, you may wish to arrange for a consultation with

an attorney who specializes in estate planning issues

who may be able to further advise you on these matters.