Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Parents unable to control child due to mental illness

I have a step-son 15 years old that was diagnosed almost 3 years ago with bipolar disorder (manic depression) and ADHD. During this time he has been under psyciatric care and therapy continuously but he still refuses to do his work at school, respect his teachers and parents and is defiant. We found a home-made dagger type of weapon he has made out of wood and a saw with the tape under his bed....I became very alarmed. The next evening my son refused to listen to his father and was told to go to his room, he refused then pushed his father...this got physical and threatened to hurt both of us. Afterwards my son called the police to say his father hit him. The police talked to our son, unable to reason with him as well and discussed options of filing petitions against him for threats, assault, etc. Today we took him to his psyciatrist and told him the situation, he just recommends we continue the weekly sessions and monitor his medication. My question is........What does a parent do when they can no longer control the childs behavior in school or at home, we feel like we have run out of avenues?


Asked on 3/21/98, 11:44 pm

2 Answers from Attorneys

John Maus Law Office of John R. Maus

What To Do Next

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Certainly, your next step will depend on how concerned you are for your step-son's (and your) safety and how willing you are to make hard choices in his best interests. When you get to the "throw up your hands" stage, Virginia Code Section 16.1-241(A)(4) allows a parent to petition the juvenile court to be relieved of the care and custody of a minor. Virginia Code Section 16.1-278.3 and, by reference, Section 16.1-278.2, tells what the Court can do when it grants such a petition.

Assuming you're not there yet, you have several other choices. First, if the psychiatrist fails to acknowledge that your step-son's current treatment is inadequate, I'd find a new psychiatrist. Also, Virginia has a Psychiatric Inpatient Treatment of Minors Act (Code Section 16.1-335 et seq.) which allows a parent to involuntarily hospitalize a minor 14 years of age or older (there are also provisions for hospitalizing younger children, but the criteria are different) if, because of the mental illness, the minor (1) presents a serious danger to himself or others to the extent that severe or irremediable injury is likely to result or (2) is experiencing a serious deterioration of his ability to care for himself in a developmentally age-appropriate manner, as evidenced by delusionary thinking or by a SIGNIFICANT IMPAIRMENT OF FUNCTIONING IN hydration, nutrition, self protection, or SELF-CONTROL.

Even if more intense medical treatment is not called for under the circumstances, making your step-son responsible for his conduct by the filing of juvenile petitions relating to recent threats or assaults may cause him to realize that there are consequences for his inappropriate behavior. Dr. James Dobson has written a book titled "Tough Love." Sometimes such love is unpleasant, but necessary.

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Answered on 3/31/98, 8:35 am
William Bray Perry & Bray

UNCONTROLLABLE CHILD

In addition to what Mr. Maus suggests, the Juvenile code still permits a petition for a child in need of services (16.1-278.4 of Va. Code). Call the intake office of your Juvenile Court for assistance and advice. This should not require you to relinquish custody, but a transfer of custody is possible with such a petition. Also, is the child receiving appropriate special education classes at school? The public schools are required to give a free appropriate public education.

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Answered on 3/31/98, 9:13 am


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