Legal Question in Family Law in Maryland

Husband says I he wont leave the home and says the kids are better off with him?

I have been married for 7 years. Through out the 7 years i have been depressed due to all the stuff he put me through. He said the reason he was the way he was to me was cause he was depressed him self because of the Navy. He was never abusive. We are both in the military. When I became pregnant with my second son i came to realize that i am unhappy and I need to get out of a marriage that has no future. That was 3 years ago. When I brought up divorce to my husband recently he is now changing for the better and is telling me since i want to leave it should be just me leaving not him. I have raised my 2 boys (7 and 2 yrs old) almost by my self cause he was always deplyed. Now I have been deployed for 4 months and he says that I cant have my boys cause he has been taking care of them. He does not want this divorce and has said that when I get home in 2 months that he will not leave the home either. I need this divorce cause I am unhappy and I need to be happy and not depressed for my children. Can he take the kids from me and what can I do about this divorce. I am lost right now and I am affraid I will not have my boys when I get back home.


Asked on 9/06/08, 4:12 am

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Gladys Weatherspoon Law Office of Gladys Weatherspoon

Re: Husband says I he wont leave the home and says the kids are better off with him?

The first thing you need to do when you get back is talk to and retain a lawyer. It sounds like this is going to be a battle, but there are ways to deal with this kind of situation. It's not automatic that mothers or fathers get the children. It's also not automatic that the person who wants the divorce is the one that has to leave. There are factors the court will consider to make that determination. But you do need to get to a lawyer right away. You are also right about this: you should not live depressed and unhappy. It's not good for your children, it's not good for you, and it's not even good for the universe, because when you are depressed you cannot give the world what you were intended to give. Good Luck.

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Answered on 9/06/08, 8:56 am


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