Legal Question in Family Law in Texas

EX-wife Harrasment ?

My Husband's ex-wife is sending emails, one after the other demanding more money for child support. Also demanding that my Husband owes her monies due to her, per their divorce decree. I personally have thoroughly read the divorce decree *seven times now, and know where is he responsible for any debts owed-other than child support. We are current on the child support & regularly check the records at the Attorney General's office to be 100% positive that we are current. What can we do to make the emails stop ? What legal actions can we take to put an end to her very demanding emails ? We have emailed her several times, stating we would like for her to stop sending the emails, or we will consider them Harrasment. That only provokes the lady. It is important we keep on a cordial bases with her, because she has sole custody of our boys. Is there anything we can do legally to put a stop to this time consuming nonsense ? My Husband & i are both student's, and this is interfering with our school, & homelife. *Please help.


Asked on 11/27/05, 1:06 am

1 Answer from Attorneys

Fran Brochstein Attorney & Mediator

Re: EX-wife Harrasment ?

PAPERWORK IS THE NON CUSTODIAL PARENT'S FRIEND. BE SURE TO KEEP COPIES OF EVERYTHING.

YOU COULD ALWAYS ASK HER TO PUT IN WRITING EXACTLY WHAT HE OWES HER AND WHY.

AS A DIVORCED PARENT, I CAN ASSURE YOU THAT THERE IS NEVER ENOUGH MONEY TO RAISE CHILDREN. THEY ARE VERY EXPENSIVE.

YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS. HOWEVER, THAT WON'T PUT AN END TO THE HARRASSMENT.

WHY NOT GET A NEW EMAIL ADDRESS WHERE YOU GET ALL YOUR EMAILS AND LET HER STILL USE THE OLD EMAIL ADDRESS AND ONLY READ IT WHEN YOU ARE IN THE MOOD TO DO SO.

YOU CAN FILE A MOTION TO MODIFY.

OR DEPENDING ON THE FINAL DECREE OF DIVORCE IF THE PARTIES WAS ORDERED TO NOT HARRASS EACH OTHER, THEN YOU CAN ASK FOR CONTEMPT AGAINST HER.

HOWEVER, EMAILS ARE NOT MUCH OF A FORM OF CONTEMPT. THE COURTS ARE AWARE THAT YOU CAN BLOCK HER EMAILS AND STOP THE HARRASSING.

THE COURT WILL WANT THE PARENTS TO LEARN TO WORK TOGETHER FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN. THIS BICKERING IS ONLY HURTING THE CHILDREN. THE COURT'S MIGHT SEND EVERYONE TO COUNSELING IN ORDER TO RESOLVE SOME OF THIS ANGER AND HOSTILITY.

KEEP COPIES OF ALL EMAILS FROM HER AND YOUR RESPONSE TO THEM.

THIS SOUNDS LIKE A PROBLEM FOR KING SOLOMON TO RESOLVE!

THERE IS NOT WAY TO KEEP HER HAPPY AND NOT DO WHAT SHE WANTS. IF YOU BLOCK HER EMAILS, THINGS WILL GET WORST. YOU WANT A SOLUTION TO A PROBLEM THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE. NO ATTORNEY OR COURT CAN MAKE THIS WOMAN BEHAVE!

IF YOU ARE THE NEW WIFE -- YOU NEED TO STAY OUT OF IT. LET THE PARENTS WORK TOGETHER. IF THE FATHER WON'T WORK WITH THE MOTHER THEN IT'S HIS PROBLEM. STAY OUT OF IT! (HOW DO I KNOW THIS -- I'VE BEEN DOING FAMILY LAW FOR OVER 10 YEARS AND IT'S USUALLY THE WOMEN FIGHTING THAT CAUSES THE PROBLEMS.)

THE NEW WIFE NEEDS TO NOT GET INVOLVED IN THIS MATTER. THESE ARE NOT YOUR CHILDREN! THE KIDS ARE HIS AND HIS EX'S.

HE PICKED HER, HE MARRIED HER, HE HAD KIDS WITH HER AND IT'S HIS PROBLEM.

YOU MARRIED HIM KNOWING HE WAS THE FATHER OF CHILDREN AND HE HAD AN EX-WIFE.

THE PARENTS WILL BE CONNECTED TO THE KIDS FOR THE REST OF THE KIDS LIFE. THIS SITUATION WILL NOT END WHEN THE KIDS TURN 18. THERE WILL BE FURNERALS, WEDDINGS, BIRTHS, GRADUATIONS, ETC. FOR THE REST OF THE CHILDREN'S LIVES. IF YOU WANT TO DO WHAT'S BEST FOR THE CHILDREN, WORK TO GET ALONG WITH THE MOTHER.

IF YOU NEED TO, GO INTO THERAPY TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH THE MOTHER OF THESE CHILDREN.

IF SHE HITS ALL YOUR "BUTTONS" THEN LEARN TO MOVE YOUR "BUTTONS".

YOU ARE ALLOWING HER BEHAVIOR TO UPSET YOU!

PERHAPS COUNSELING CAN HELP YOU LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH HER BETTER.

IT'S IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILDREN TO LEARN TO WORK WITH THIS WOMAN!

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Answered on 11/27/05, 4:08 pm


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