Legal Question in Family Law in Florida

I am divorced and we have shared custody (50/50) of our 15 year old daughter. My ex-wife has a substance abuse problem (ETOH). Our daughter refuses to stay overnight with her mother anymore because of her mother's drinking and psychological abuse. My ex is thretening to take me back to court for non-compliance with the divorce / child custody agreement. My daughter has been living with me full time for the last 9 months. (I am continuing to pay my ex child support) Our daughter does spend time with her mother but for short periods during the day and never after 7pm. In the past I have had to pick up our daughter from my ex-wife's house because of drinking and bad behavior of her mother. I had to call the police several times because of the drinking and trauma that she inflicted on our daughter. (Police were not helpful...just said "well she is at your house now and she is safe, so why are you calling us?" I have encouraged my ex-wife to go to counseling and go with my daughter in order to improve their relationship but that has not happened. Our 15 y.o. daughter does not want to stay at her mother's house overnight, what do I need to do/ can I do to protect our daughter?


Asked on 3/04/13, 7:52 pm

6 Answers from Attorneys

Dawn Marie Bates-Buchanan Bates-Buchanan & Savitsky Law Group, P.A.

Of course going back to court is an option. However unless you have some evidence of your ex-wife's behavior or problem, such as witnesses other than your child it can be difficult. I would suggest filing a Motion to Appoint A Parenting Coordinator and then allow that person to work with your child and the mother to come to a parenting plan that is in the child's best interest. If the Parenting Coordinator cannot help all come to a plan that all can agree on, then perhaps they could be a witness as to what is in the best interest of the child.

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Answered on 3/04/13, 9:38 pm
John Smitten Carey and Leisure

You have to go back to court to get a custody order in your favor, and stop the assessment of child support against you. Contact my office for free consultation 727-446-7659

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Answered on 3/05/13, 2:48 am
David Slater David P. Slater, Esq.

Your testimony alone may not be enough. Do you have witnesses?

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Answered on 3/05/13, 5:25 am
Carolyn Jones Law Office of Carolyn R. Jones

You can file a Petition to change custody in court. Keep in mind your testimony alone may not be enough. You should also know that if you wish for your daughter to testify you have to ask the court for special permission. If you have witness to your ex-wife's behavior that would strengthen your case. And your could ask the Court to appoint a Social Investigator so they can access the situation. Best Wishes it sounds like your situation is rough.

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Answered on 3/05/13, 7:02 am
Lucreita Becude Lucreita D. Becude, P.A.

Mostly good advice from my colleagues. I suggest you contact a Family Law Attorney and get your best options presented to you. Under the current situation, you are fighting a losing battle unless you have evidence of the situation in hand. I believe I would explain to bio mom that unless she consents to the change of custody and child support that this will be a long drawn out battle that may entail revealing issues of her problems. You certainly may have your daughter testify - there is no reason she should not. She is old enough to tell the court what is going on. If I can be of assistance, please contact my office for an appointment 904-997-1031.

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Answered on 3/05/13, 8:32 am
Natalie Hall The Law Office of Natalie D. Hall, P.A.

You need to do a Supplemental Petition to Modify the Parenting Plan and Time Sharing asking that your daughter reside primarily with you.

A parenting plan coordinator will not necessarily be helpful but you can ask the court to appoint a parenting plan evaluator licensed under Florida law who can interview your daughter your wife and yourself and speak with other witnesses as well as review all evidence and make a recommendation to the court. This evaluator will be able to provide the facts on which the evaluation is based and this is an opportunity for your daughter's observation to be introduced without her testifying.

It is not advisable that you operate pro se (without an attorney) as, based on the allegations, technical legal arguments will need to be provided and you will be better able to present a solid case with legal assistance.

Please call my office (407) 412-7035 or email ([email protected]) if you need further assistance.

Natalie Hall, Esq.

www.ndhlaw.com

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Answered on 3/05/13, 12:40 pm


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