I would suggest you consult with a licensed attorney to help you with both your home loan and any issues with the paralegal.

Your question is confusingly worded. You need to determine whether you have an attorney or not. In California, a paralegal is prohibited from giving legal advice and assistance unless they do so under the direct supervision of a licensed attorney. Anything else is the unauthorized practice of law. From your question, I cannot tell whether you received supervised or unsupervised assistance, and are listed as representing yourself on the papers, or you are actually represented by the attorneys that your paralegal works for.

Assuming that you are actually represented by the attorneys, you need to understand that in California, an attorney is ethically prohibited from speaking to an opposing client that the attorney knows is represented by counsel. "While representing a client, a member shall not communicate directly or indirectly about the subject of the representation with a party the member knows to be represented by another lawyer in the matter, unless the member has the consent of the other lawyer." (Cal. Rules of Prof. Conduct, rule 2-100.) If you are trying to speak to the lender's attorney, I would not let you do it either, if I were your attorney.

I can't tell from reading your question whether you are not being allowed to speak to the other attorneys, by your attorney, as relayed to you by the paralegal, or whether the paralegal is not allowing you to speak to your own attorneys. If you are not being allowed to speak to your attorneys, you might not have any attorneys at all, and are being scammed by an unsupervised paralegal who is "moonlighting."