Re: email access
I guess good lawyers can disagree on things, and I know Ms. Grosse to be a good lawyer. That's why law is an art and not a science, and that's why we have judges.
I see Ms. Grosse's point, that accessing email violates a federal statute, 18 USC 2701. But that statute says it is a crime to "intentionally access, without authorization, a facility through which" email is provided. I don't think a home computer counts as a "facility," but I could be wrong. Moreover, the Department of Justice, on their website, has said the statute "is intended to address 'computer hackers' and corporate spies."
I really don't think the statute applies, but, as I said, I could be wrong. If accessing a spouse's or paramour's emails can lead to a federal prosecution, then I have a lot of family law clients who are headed for Club Fed.
I'll let Sarah have the last word, if she wants.