I am pregnant due in November. The father (my ex) was extremely abusive while we were together, and I managed to finally move out and leave him in August. He is threatening for full custody unless I get back together with him, I want him to have supervised visitations. I have character witnesses, including my prenatal nurse, but I don't have any physical evidence (police were called once but no report was filed, no hospitalizations). He threatened to 'kill the child when it was born' several times, and I don't trust him with an infant at all. He currently is unemployed, living with his parents since I moved out of our apartment, going to grad school, about 30 miles away. My parents live 4 hours away and think I should move home, but I have an apartment and a job here. Would it be in my child's best interest (safety) to move, even though I'd become unemployed, and still have rent to pay, or do I have a case to stay here and still protect him/her?
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Hello. I suggest you may want to stop at your local police department and make a formal report immediately. There are 24 hour phone sites such as The Crisis Connection with trained counselors ready and waiting to talk with you and be of help and service to you. I urge you privately to confer at length with an attorney right away. You will discuss the details of the situation, the 'what if's', what your gut feels is best, what your gut tells you may happen. You should choose an attorney knowledgeable in domestic abuse matters. Your should take the threats seriously. You are welcome to contact me. Please obtain help right away. There are many protective measures that may be taken. You may phone my law firm on Saturdays and Sundays, as well as weekdays. This website provides general information and general principles of law and does not provide private legal advice. Some attorneys are available seven days for emergency legal needs. Many attorneys will confer initially at no charge. Then, if legal work is performed, some attorneys will provide a reduced fee for financial hardship. Some attorneys may also assist you in limited scope manner to conserve legal costs. All the best.
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