I just found out that I am indeed the father of my ex-wife's second child. I knew she existed but until we were given a DNA test I never believed I was the father. I have a 4 year old son with my ex, the girl is 2 1/2 and I currently have a 4 month old son with my new wife of 1 1/2 years. I am court ordered to pay $409 a month for my eldest son. I am only making $7.43 an hour at my current job and cannot afford to keep getting behind on my child support because I am having to support my family now. Because of my ex-wife's behavior and her family resenting me I have not made many trips to see my son nor have I made many attempts to call. I love my son and I'm sure I can love my daughter as well but my ex-wife wants me to pay child support but not be in the girls life. I thought of giving both children up but I honestly don't have the heart to go that far. I need to know what to do in my case. How can I make her give me joint custody of my children? How can I get my child support lowered to my income? How can I pay off my back child support without having to give up half of my income due to garnishments? Is it possible to get my ex-wife to meet me half way for visitation? I live in Beaumont,TX and she lives in Haughton,LA. Help!?