My step child will turn 13 in a month. Will the judge listen to him if he wants to come and live with us instead of the custodial parent? If not at what age do they take this into consideration?? Also, when we visited this past weekend we heard stories of a live in uncle letting an older sibbling hit the other child and the uncle verbally abusing the younger child~~ If the child is affraid to tell, what can we do to get evidence on this??