I have a two-year-old daughter. Her father and I never married and we have joint legal custody. In my court order visitation is every other weekend and other times I deem suitable. The father does not have a driver's lecense (habitual offender) and his mother usually picks my daughter up. When it's his visitation weekend, he sees the child very little. He may spend two or three hours at most with her and she goes off with grandparents or aunt the rest of the time. This man has an alcohol/drug problem (which he does not admit to of course) and overnights and unsupervised visits are not an option. I have a real problem with the fact that my child is gone 8-9 hours at a time with them and only sees her dad 1-2 hours. I don't want to hurt the grandparents, but it makes me angry that they call it ''our'' visitation. Is it really ''their'' visitation or is it his and can I have the court order revised to state that if she's not with him, I have the option of not letting her go?