I got married on 18th Nov 2012.Post marriage issues of money (her finances, stridhan), inlaws (adjustments, expectations), sex
(marriage is unconsummated as she did not want kids till a year),cooking, her dress sense cropped up. Further even on my birthday
she did not wish me though I have celebrated her birthday well
Both of us are working professionals. I had to go out of town with my parents (parents and I stay together) during financial
year end (March 2013) and my wife could not accompany me as she had work pressure. So she went to stay with her parents. Before she went
I had asked her to think over the above matters. This was approximately 4 months after our marriage. But matters were
twisted to suggest that I and my parents had asked her to go. Her sister and her parents and relatives abused us in person
and took my wife’s dresses and other belongings. We are now separated since and my wife despite my attempts
to communicate refuses to answer my calls, emails, smses etc. She is not even prepared for counseling. Though we have
wedding proofs there is no marriage certificate. I do not want to separate from my wife. She earns approx 70% of my salary.
Further I have written atleast half a dozen mails to her telling her to meet me and expressing my love for her and telling her that marriage, relationship needs to be worked upon
but to no avail.I have also contacted her relatives on email. In mails to my wife and her relatives (in which she was copied) I have always been cordial
and have maintained that whatever issues can be settled thru dialogue. I have maintained that I stay committed to the relationship
and there is a need for independent meeting between my wife and me or in the presence of a marriage counsellor( I have given
the marriage counsellors number to my wife thru email). The relative is insisting that I go to my wifes place (which I have not
since we seperated) and discuss issues with her and her parents.
1. Do you think whatever I have done is a good move so far & what else should I try or now just keep quite?.
2. WOuld it be a mistake to go to my wifes place as it can open ground for police cases?
3. What can be the possible action in future from my wifes side? Since their complete silence is a bit strange.
4. Can the court compel her to go for counseling (once she approaches for divorce) so that atleast viewpoints be exchanged?
5. how do I establish cruelty on her part towards me?
6. Since she is working What kind of alimony can she expect?