My husband and I have been married 14 years. He is in the military. He wants a divorce and says we had problems. He did not make me aware of any problems. He just said he doesn't want to be married anymore. He has has 3 affairs that I know of and I believe that he is involved with some one currently. He has a lot of hangups and I know that he needs counseling. He will not agree to go. We have a 14 year old son. I do not want a divorce and he seems confused. What are my options? Can I contest the divorce?