I have two questions: My ex husband was just awarded sole custody, and I am ordered to pay $257 in child support each month. However, I am living in a foreign country with my current husband (temporarily living here) and can not find work due to the language barrier. How can I be ordered to pay money under these circumstances? My second question deals with my rights as a parent. In the court order, it states that my ex will now make all decisions pertaining to the children. Does this mean that I am no longer entitled to receive academic updates from my children's school? Because my ex's wife sent me an email stating that now that my ex has sole custody, that they would be removing my name from the school contact list. I didn't realize that sole custody for one parent meant no rights for the other parent. Please help!